What do I say?

E-Nig wrote:Cobra Takes jokes seriously.

Allow
just let yourself go. Really the best way to have a conversation is banter!
See, if things go awkward I might randomly say: "Remember that time when [X] missed the goal from 2 yards out?! What a goon" and it carries on from there.
interrupt a convo if you have to. >.>

I'll try that Matt.

If they are true friends I guess you could talk to them about your problem. As true friends they'll understand and consider your problem when contacting with you.

yep, they're ur friends...just get into it. really, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable around ur friends.

Matthew wrote:"Remember that time when [X] missed the goal from 2 yards out?! What a goon"

HAHA ^^ yea i remember that hehe....

Dude, you may have something that make you think too much, you were maybe just tired, what ever the reason is, if you like your friends :p then you'll find something to say, you'll find your way to take part of conversation
Just throw what you have to say, don't think too much of what you'll say

If they weren't your friends, then why did they invite you to come?
I can have lots of fun with my friends and most of the times I am behaving like the most idiotic person ever. But that's just myself. They accept it. You must be yourself too, and just talk to your friends. There must be something to talk about with them. Even if they are busy with a convo.
About making new friends, that's a whole diffrent story. Some can make new friends really fast while others it takes ages. For me as an example. It takes a while before I get new friends. But IF I get them, they like me. I'm a bit shy here and there and I don't just step up to people and talk to them. I bet you have the same problem as well. That's normal.
But someone in this topic said that you needed to drink some alcohol. You know that works actually. Most of my friends tell me they met their girlfriend while they were drunk. (That's sick in my eyes, cause the gf sees the drunk person, not the real person but k) But you make friends when you had a few drinks. So maybe if you are going out with some friends. Do that. Even my brother likes me when I had a few lawl and he dislikes me when im sober. xD
anyways, it's very normal really.

edit: Jesus Christ huge post.

For me it's also quite hard to make new friends, because I don't dare to go and just talk to someone.
I mean, I answer and talk back if I'm spoken to, but it's rare that I go myself and socialise with strangers. (Unless it's some sweet chick xD)

But with time I usually get a friend or another, and so far all of them have accepted me the way I am. And I don't have the slightest intention to somehow change my behaviour to impress or please my friends.
I'm alright with the way they are - I expect the same from them.

Spraynwipe, in my opinion you shouldn't feel awkward about what to say among a group of friends, since friends don't judge. That's the spirit of being friends with someone - you can open up and share your secrets (not all of them of course) with them.
Surely that depends on how close the friends are, but I would say they're not friends if you have to be afraid about what to say.

I still recommend to discuss with your mates about this problem of yours. I'm sure they're very understanding, at least they should be if you call them friends.
When they know how you feel I bet it would be easier to open/participate a conversation for both you and your friends.

It's quiet awesome to see that all members here are trying to help each other with serious problems.

*Hule* wrote: I still recommend to discuss with your mates about this problem of yours. I'm sure they're very understandable, at least they should be if you call them friends.
When they know how you feel I bet it would be easier to open/participate a conversation for both you and your friends.

It depends what your mates are like
i mean seriously, if theyre like me. Id laugh at him for saying problems.
not everybody is as sensative and understandable as your freinds hule.

Yeah that's true cobRa.. I would never dare to tell anyone face to face.. But I've recovered.. I was just pumped on hormones last night and wasn't thinking very clearly... Hormones suck.. bad T_T

Well, who do you open up and share secrets with? (If girlfriend doesn't count now)

I think it would be cool to have someone to back you up when you have hard times, friends who laugh at others' problems aren't good backup. At least that's how I feel.
Even one friend who understands your problems is very helpful.

*Hule* wrote:Well, who do you open up and share secrets with? (If girlfriend doesn't count now)

I think it would be cool to have someone to back you up when you have hard times, friends who laugh at others' problems aren't good backup. At least that's how I feel.
Even one friend who understands your problems is very helpful.

if i have social problems, or something like that which i never usually do. I take it on myselff, i dont need somebody to help me.

But every person is unique.